Mirror verses Mindset

The mirror. Defined as, “a surface that reflects or gives an image of an object placed in front of it”. But for so many of us, mirrors hold much more weight than a mere reflected image.

It hasn't always been like that though. If you've ever seen a baby look into a mirror or camera, you know i'm right. It’s really a rather beautiful (and absolutely adorable) thing to observe. Babies light up when they realize they realize they are looking at themselves!! So much awe, wonder and joy fill their eyes. Yet, somehow when we fast-forward 15 to 20 years, we laugh at the idea of ever being excited to see our reflection.

So where did it go wrong?

Why is it that time and maturity coincide with a growing lack of self-worth?

I am so guilty of this and I see it in the faces of most people I come into contact with. And it breaks my heart. Why is it that every morning when I stand in front of my bathroom sink, I’m flooded with negative thoughts?! Everyday. WHY?! It can be anything from my less-than-perfect waste line or my slightly left-crooked nose, but it's always something.

I don’t think that time or maturity is necessarily the culprit here though. I wouldn't even blame it fully on culture either. In fact, the majority of the problem is our own fault. Yes, you very well might be your own very worst enemy on this. BUT before you get too offended and quit reading, just hear me out.

We constantly allow our minds to be bombarded by society. From celebrity social media pages to the demoralizing “catchy” song lyrics on the radio; we have created a mindset of what or who we are suppose to be from all the wrong places.

How can you ever know the truth about your self-worth if your only information is coming from continuously changing, unrealistic sources?

It’s like learning how to have a family by watching The Brady Bunch. You’re family is never going to be like the Brady Bunch (sorry to crush any dreams of you avid TVLand watchers out there... if you even know what that tv channel is), because it is a fictional, fairytale-like, made for television ideal and that’s it. Sure, when I use that example it might seem like common sense, yet when regarding our self-image, we fall to this lie every. dang. day. Or at least I do.

So now that we have nailed down where we need to stop looking for answers, let’s try to figure out where we should be looking.

Where can we find the truth? Where can we find healing?

There’s only one place that speaks truth into who you are peeps. The Spirit-breathed, written words from your father. Your Heavenly Father.

Psalms 139:13-15

For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you Lord, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.

            So often we find ourselves in self-loathing “woe-is-me” mindsets that defeat our whole day and steal our joy. Yet, we have the greatest cure to all these situations laying on our bedside table and hardly ever think to utilize it. Our Bible. The Bible contains all the direction we need to achieve a fulfilling life, we just have to open it and read it first in order to receive His guidance. Seems simple enough right? Yet that's rarely where my first instinct is to look.

Romans 15:4 tells us, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope”. Did you get that?? Reading scripture gives us hope for any situation. There’s no situation you encounter that God didn’t already know about or a problem He forgot to cover in His Word. Give your Creator some credit here, He's equipped us fully to face any battle. We just have to dive in His word and find it.

            However, just merely reading the words at face value, closing the pages, and never giving that particular scripture a second thought won’t fix anything. His direction must be digested and applied, as well. In fact, 2 Timothy 2:7 says, “Think over what I say, for the Lord will give you understanding in everything”. He promises understanding to those who meditate and take His word to heart. That's when you will truly conquer problems.

That's when you will conquer your insecurities and battles with contentment, too. NOT just by temporarily fixing your physical “inadequacies”.

           Take that knowledge and apply it to scriptures such as Psalms 139:13-15 (quoted previously). Take to heart what this passage says on the battle against the mirror & self-worth. Realize that you were uniquely crafted in your mother’s womb and hand designed by the God of the universe. Only the truth of God's word can show you that. 

And if you have gotten absolutely nothing else from this, please just remember that who God says you are speaks so much louder into who you are than what a mirror can muster up. Jesus's death on the cross demonstrated His final and total love for you once and for all, giving you something infinitely more beautiful than any mirror could ever show. 

Kaitlyn Cupples