Get To Know Yourself

Get to know yourself. Seems like a pretty easy task considering, ya know, you are you and all. There’s the old saying “no one knows you better than yourself”, which is true, but I don’t think we take enough time to really get to know ourselves on a deep level. Really take time to understand our likes, dislikes, tendencies, passions and dreams. Not because we don’t want to necessarily, but because we don’t leave enough time and space to allow ourselves to.


I spent most of my life just doing things. Doing things because that’s what I was supposed to do, or that’s what everyone else was doing or even just doing things because it was the easy thing to do. Going to church because I was expected to, dressing a certain way because that was what everyone else was, saying certain jokes or sayings because that’s what was funny at the time, listened to music because it was popular, going to college because it was the next step….. I could easily give like 4735 more examples, but I’ll spare you. Not that doing any of these things were bad or wrong but going through life doing things based on the influences of the world and the people around you can be really draining.

We are so used to morphing into the stereotypical molds society gives us though that we become numb to the external influences on our lives around us. I became numb to it.

It’s so easy to lose yourself in this culture. It’s so easy because we are bombarded with these outside influences at such young ages, that I don’t even think we get a fair chance to unbiasedly figure ourselves out.

How different would your life look if you asked yourself questions like:

Does ______ serve me?

Does ______ bring me closer to purpose or pull me away?

Do I even enjoy _____?

Am I doing ______ for me or to please the people around me?

Do I feel fulfilled in doing _____ or do I feel drained by ______?

I challenge you to start asking these. Not for the purpose of never doing anything you don’t want or like to do because honey….. life will bring you plenty of things you don’t want to do or like to do BUT when those things occur on your path to purpose, they’re worth it. 

It’s hard to know your purpose if you don’t know yourself. 

Okay so how do you get to know yourself?

Disconnect. Unplug. Pray. Meditate. Spend time by yourself….. doing absolutely nothing but really getting to the root of what brings you joy, what drains you, what your goals are, what your passions are, and how to live in a way that honors those.


I fear that many of us go our whole lives without connecting deeply with our own selves, because we’re afraid to know what’s underneath the surface. Ya, digging deep has potential to uncover a lot of the places we have stuffed down, numbed out or purposely forgotten and you’re right, that’s not necessarily fun… but its real.

And until you’re real with yourself, you can’t really know yourself.

You know the phrase, it’s okay to not be okay? I love that. I think we get caught up in the American way of looking clean cut, polished and sparkly; but that doesn’t leave a lot of space for raw, real, connection with yourself and the people around you. 

Quite frankly, the American way often means being a cookie cutter, exact replica of the people around us in order to assimilate. In order to “fit in”. In order to be accepted. The problem with that is the more we try to blend in; doing things you see others do, posting certain things in order to get more likes, choosing to think a certain way in order to not ruffle feathers the easier it is to forget your own thoughts and your own likes. 

Your time on earth has potential to be really shallow, superficial, and disconnected from purpose if you aren’t taking time to connect and reconnect with yourself. Taking time to realign your passions, goals and beliefs back to what your soul agrees with. 

I wished I had learned this sooner. I wish I hadn’t spent so much time worried about fitting in and what other people think. Trying to be someone I’m not in order to fit into mold of someone else that I was never meant to be. The pursuit of being like other people never satisfies because it was never the path we were meant to walk. Like I said, your purpose can’t be found in someone else’s path sis, you have one all for yourself! Don’t let that be scary, let that give you life and hope!! Hope that your Creator has a plan that perfectly suits YOU.

But it does take intentional work. Takes intentional time. Intentional reflection. Intentionally getting to know yourself. 

I challenge you to try this. Dig deep. I’d love to hear what you discover!

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